The Best 9 Tips on How to Ask a Girl Out and get a Positive Response!

You want to ask out that particular girl, but you’re not sure how to go about it. Don’t worry. You don’t need a dating coach.

It can be tough to know what to do when you like someone. Most guys might be afraid of getting rejected or making a fool of themselves.

We’ve got the perfect guide for you! In this article, we’ll give you the best tips on how to ask a girl out and get a positive response.

Why is asking a girl out so important?

Well, for one, it’s the best way to let her know that you’re interested in her. Secondly, it can help you gauge whether or not she’s interested in you too.

Finally, it can help you build a relationship with her. So, how do you ask a girl out?

Tips on how to ask a girl out and get a positive response

Do you want to attract multiple women or keep a girl interested in you?

If you’ve been eyeing an attractive woman for a while and you’re ready to take the plunge, here are some tips on how to ask her out and get a positive response.

1-Examine her feelings for you.

The first step is to figure out how interested she is in you. Wait for a few weeks after you’ve been casually talking to her, and then subtly drop a few hints to see if she responds in kind. If she does, that’s a good sign that she may be interested in you too.

Did you notice whether she was aware of your presence among the group of friends? Was there any eye contact between the two of you? Were there any smiles at all?

If she smiles at you, has friendly body language, and makes eye contact with you often, maybe she’s interested in you.

If you talk to her for a few days and she seems interested, that’s good news. Don’t be afraid to take action and pursue your goal!

Another possibility is that the woman you want to ask out doesn’t give you any indication of interest at all.

On the contrary, she always seems to be annoyed busy. She pulls your body; she never speaks to you, never speaks to you at all, not at all.

If you don’t want to get rejected, you should try asking someone else out.

2-Take care of your appearance.

Once you’ve decided and are confident that you’ll speak to her, take good care of yourself. Don’t show up looking ruffled because you will have destroyed everything.

Women prefer a neat man, smell nice, and appear well-groomed. You may even make a checklist and check it off the box by box to keep track of everything. Ensure that the following are correct:

Trim your nails carefully and clean them.

You won’t be able to attract women with dirty nails. If you can, you’re not trying hard enough.

An excellent way to make sure you always have clean nails is to keep a travel-sized nail brush and clippers in your wallet or purse.

Brush your teeth properly.

If you want your female friend to kiss you, you should have good oral hygiene. That means that there should be no residue, and your breath should smell good. If you can, use mouthwash.


If you don’t have a beard, be sure to clean your razor thoroughly. If you grow one, clean it, trim it, and line it. It must appear well-kept. Women adore beards as long as they are groomed.

Wear clean shoes

Shoes are a reflection of your personality, and cleanliness reflects your professionalism. Therefore, the condition of your shoes is critical.

There should be no dirty or damaged shoes on the floor. To attract women, make sure they are clean and presentable.

Use perfume

The sense of smell is crucial because odors linger in our memory longer than any other stimuli. So choose a pleasant fragrance that will always remind you of yourself.

Take a shower

A shower before seeing your girlfriend will make you seem new and clean.

You should keep in mind that your hygiene and physical appearance are significant factors in whether or not a lady likes you.

The other aspect of the game is your words and the time you choose to converse with her. So, let’s look at the next point:

3-Choose the best moment to strike.

If you talk to her today, find a time when she is alone. That will be less uncomfortable and intimidating than if everyone is there. Think about how it would feel if it was you in that situation.

Consider the possibility that everyone around her will be keeping an eye on her and evaluating the decisions she makes.

So please don’t do it. Instead, play it safe and take advantage of her solitude when you can.

When you ask someone a question, it is helpful to choose the right time and place. This way they will be more likely to give you an honest answer, either the one you want to hear or the one that might hurt a little bit.

A lie that will break your heart is worth less than a proper response, no matter what it is.

4-Speak openly and honestly with her.

The hardest part of this step is finding the right words to say. However, many of them probably work very well.

But I can assure you that there is only one that ends in a complete failure: not saying anything.

Come on, that’s pathetic. From beginning with a primary and modest ‘hello,’ as well as telling her that she’s beautiful or appreciating a garment she’s wearing because it reminds her of something, her mother gave her a few years ago, among other things.

However, what you say may not work on occasion. There are several reasons for this.

Some lines, for example, aren’t effective simply because they aren’t genuine or honest.

When a lady receives those words from a guy, she knows he isn’t sincere. They will not agree to that concept in any case.

It seems that women can tell when men try to persuade them with fake or insincere speech.

Everyone, especially ladies, is motivated by honesty in these circumstances.

When you communicate your goals honestly, you create empathy and interest in the woman. It’s that easy and efficient.

What if something like this happens in the workplace? The same laws don’t apply here.

5-Attitude, posture, and confidence

Please don’t make it seem too pressing and formal. On the contrary, the looser and less stressful, the better.

A good posture and self-assurance will convey that you do this regularly.

It’s all about finding the right balance. If you go all-out, risking without anesthesia, she will be irritated.

Keep your cool, and don’t hurry the process because she won’t like it at all, and what you’ll hear will be a nasty “no.”

6-Try to be close to her

The closer you are, the more you’ll be able to feel her body heat, and the better you’ll smell. However, you don’t want to invade her personal space. That can be interpreted as threatening behavior and will likely result in an adverse reaction.

There is an optimal distance you should keep to make her feel comfortable. If you are too close, you will be seen as a threat, and if you’re too far away, you’ll seem uninterested.

That is something you’ll have to figure out through experience. Each person is different, and you’ll have to adjust your approach accordingly.

If you are too far from that woman, you will need to move closer, but you don’t want to crowd her. So instead, put your foot forward, take a step closer, and tilt your head a little to the side. That will help you look more approachable, and it also signals that you are interested in what she has to say.

7-Be prepared for rejection

No matter how well you plan or execute your approach, there is always a chance that she will say “no.” That cannot be easy to deal with, but you must remember to stay positive.

Remember that rejection is not the end of the world. There are plenty of other women out there who would love to go on a date with you.

You can do a few things to make the rejection less painful.

  • Take some time to reflect on what you did wrong. That will help you improve your approach for the next time.
  • Don’t take it personally. She may have had a bad day or may not be interested in you.
  • Move on and don’t dwell on the rejection. It’s not worth your time and energy.

8-Be a gentleman

Even if she says “no,” you should always act like a gentleman. Thank her for her time and walk away gracefully. Don’t harass her or make her feel uncomfortable.

There is a fine line between being persistent and being pushy. If you cross that line, you will end up getting rejected again.

Be polite, courteous, and respectful at all times. It’s the right thing to do, and it will help you in the long run.

9-Don’t give up

It may take a few attempts before success, but don’t give up. Persistence is vital when it comes to dating.

If you are rejected, learn from your mistakes and try again. There is no need to get discouraged.

The more you date, the better you will become at it. With a bit of practice, you’ll be able to approach any woman with confidence.

What to do if she says no?

It is no big deal if she says no. There is always a chance that your efforts will not work out. That is how it is in this business. So if she says she does not want to go out with you, stay calm and do not pout.

If someone is bothering you and you don’t want to talk to them, be polite but firm and end the conversation. You might feel down after this, but it’s okay. It’s a learning experience.

Finally, figure out where you went wrong and learn from your mistakes. Then, try to do better when attracting another girl you like in the future.

She said yes, now what?

If she says yes, you did it! You’re unique and know how to ask a woman out. However, joy will flood your body; you should not allow it to show too much.

It’s not like you’re going to jig or dance. Simply informing her that you’re pleased and thrilled will suffice.

A coffee date is an excellent way to start. You don’t have to go overboard on the spending. You can take her to a less expensive place; a good coffee shop is enough.

Movies are generally a bad idea for the first date, but you might be able to get away with it if you’ve already been talking for a while or you know she likes you.

For a Friday night, you could take her to a nicer place. But, on the other hand, dinner and a movie might be the best way to ensure you have a great time. It’s hard to screw up a date like that.

When meeting her parents, be sure that you know what you’re doing and say the right things. It’s always a good sign when you make a good impression on her parents. Also, girls generally take pride in their parents’ opinions of who they date.

Remember, you want a romantic date and treat her like a queen and not just some girl you want to sleep with. If you can do that, you’ll be just fine.

How to ask a girl for her number?

Ask her if you may have her number, and if she provides it, you’re in luck! If not, you might want to try asking for a way to stay in touch, such as social media.

However, you phrase it, make sure you do not come off as pushy. You want her to feel comfortable with you, and giving her your number is an excellent way to start.

Remember, if she takes your number, she is a potential date, but you should not get discouraged if she doesn’t.

There is plenty of other fish in the sea, as they say. Just learn from your mistakes, so you don’t make them again.

What if you don’t have any friends to help you out?

If you don’t have any friends who can help you out, it’s time to find some. Join social clubs, go on dating websites, or go out to the bar and talk to people. You’ll be surprised at how many people are willing to help you out.

Simply put, you need to get out there and start socializing. It’s the only way to make new friends – which will inevitably lead you to find someone you want to date.

When you finally find the girl you want to ask out, go for it! The worst thing she can say is no. However, you’ll never know if you don’t try. Just be yourself and confident, and you’ll do great.

The bottom line

So there you have it, the best tips on how to ask a girl out. While asking someone out can be nerve-wracking.

If you follow these steps and keep in mind that most people are flattered when asked out, you’ll be well on your way to landing that date.

Be sure to check out our other dating advice articles for more tips on everything from first dates to breaking up. And good luck!

Medically reviewed and approved by Nataniel Josue Alvarez M.D. and Luzmery Romero M.D. 

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